There are several ways of self-destruction that are favored by women. The most popular one and one that is also well-approved by society is to turn yourself into a perpetual motion machine with the subsequent transformation into a ridden down horse. Ridden down horses are usually shot, aren’t they? Have you ever thought of why?
The thing is that when a horse overreaches itself, its heart is ruined and it has hemorrhaging lungs. It can go into anaerobic respiration when the process of oxidation does not involve oxygen. This means that in the course of a hard race, the animal uses all the resources of its body and can handle an immense load, but cannot control energy outlay. That is why the racer comes to completely exhausting all resources and either dies in agony or becomes an invalid who cannot handle any kind of stress.
People are also subject to the ridden-down-horse effect. I am sure you’ve heard of marathon runners and triathletes who died on the course. The reason is the same – overexertion and exhaustion of body resources. For most modern women, the ridden-down-horse effect is stretched out over time a little more because there are breaks for sleeping and eating. True, objectively, ladies do not run marathons or participate in triathlon too much; they may not even do sports at all. However, constant stress and lack of effective rest quickly wear out the body and lead to psychosomatic illness and depression.
Present-day society promotes the image of female “successful success” and involvement in everything on the same footing as men. The ideal cover-page woman these days must look amazing, have several degrees, run a couple of profitable businesses, raise perfect children in a perfect family and live in a perfect house in a perfect country. The industry has done much to make the “successful success” image popular in order to sell the dream in the form of expensive makeup, sporting goods, gadgets, special dietary products, uniquely cut clothing and so on. Most women really believe that these amazing, successful, glamorous celestial beings of advertising, who have time for everything, really exist. All we, mere mortals, have to do is just “push a little” to reach perfection.
Present-day women try to make time on their own for something that should really be handled by five separate people. Naturally that quickly leads to exhaustion, burn-out and neuroses. So, in order to keep your health it is best to get rid of the illusion that you can do it all on your own. Actually, you should delegate everything you can and the earlier, the better. After that you can find out all the drawbacks of this “lifestyle” and substitute them with the ones that are useful and safe to your health.
You cannot rest and recuperate effectively if there are so many more things to do than one person can physically cope with. So don’t expect me to give you a unique recipe for a magical rest-cure after which you’ll be able to sweat away even better. No, you will have to deliberately give up some things and delegate them to someone else, preferably for pay, or minimize your demands on yourself in areas that are not important to you, like cooking, cleaning, and so on. It is also important to free yourself from serving those members of your household who can take care of themselves without making you into an unpaid domestic.
Try to write down every single thing that you do for a few days. Put a plus, a minus or a zero next to it, depending on whether you had more energy as a result, less or kept your own. For example, you went out dancing and felt better – put a plus next to it. You washed the floors, felt done in and wanted a break – put a minus. You had a chat with a colleague and nothing happened – put a zero. As a result, you will have a list of “minus” things to do and people that you want to get rid of in the nearest future, or at least minimize the time you spend on them. Then your need to relax will go down too.
Then you need to review three areas: your daily routine, your work load volume and your state of mind. Once you do that, you can build your own system of recuperation and rest, not as a separate occurrence like a vacation or a day off, but as a way of life when you do not overexert yourself. From the long-term point of view, it is a much healthier and intelligent way than the usual “we work hard and party hard” idea.
The optimal routine for a woman includes mandatory 9-10 hours of good night’s sleep, physical exercises and good nutrition. Scientists have conducted an experiment on mice, where they did not let them sleep for three days. As a result, on the fourth day the mice died from multiple internal hemorrhages. The sleepless brain could not coordinate the work of all bodily systems and there was an avalanche-like accumulation of “system errors”. Mice that were allowed to sleep a little before that, on the third day, slept for several days. After that their internal organs recuperated in full on their own, with no intervention or treatment of any kind. It is quite obvious that your sleep is the last thing you want to save time on.
While you sleep, in addition to regenerating tissue, the brain assimilates information received during the day and creates new neural connections. That is why if you are studying something intensively, make sure that you increase the amount of time you sleep. Many erroneously think that if you sleep less, you’ll have more time for things during the day. That is not the case. After 28-30 your body begins to be very sensitive to sleep deprivation. In a month at most of following such unwise strategy, the fatigue accumulates and your brain begins to work much slower, becomes “obtuse” and spends 2-3 times more on simple mental work than in its regular state. So a woman simply must get enough sleep. It is her number one investment in her health and wellbeing.
Now let’s move on to physical activities. Daily physical exercises improve the overall vitality, keep you bright-eyed and bushy-tailed as well as improve your efficiency and mood. As a result, you begin to solve your work problems more effectively because your focus noticeably improves. That is why it is much more expedient, instead of burying your head in a gadget, to turn on the music and dance a bit, to do some stretches or, if you work in an office, to walk around the floors with a pile of papers in your hands, looking busy. Ideally, physiologists recommend that you take a break every 1-1.5 hours for 10-15 minutes and move around actively. In this way, you can keep your focus for several hours a day longer.
In present-day world people have to deal with an enormous number of problems. Actually, the human brain was not designed for such dense flow of information. An incredible amount of information coming in tires it quickly. The brain defends itself turning the same-type signals, like music, the muttering of a TV or your colleagues conversations into “white noise”. Your body wastes a lot of energy supporting the “white noise” mode. Try to pay attention to how tense the surface of your head is while you work, especially the back of the head, the temples, the eye-sockets and areas behind your ears. These tensions that you are not aware of, serve as a type of barrier between you and the excess noise in your environment. These tensions have long become chronic and are the cause of multiple problems starting with headaches and all the way to hair loss and poor vision. It is no accident that when you go for a retreat, there are no TVs, and you are not allowed to take your gadgets with you. Comprehensive reduction of the information flow and live contact with nature are the quickest and most available way to get rid of accumulated tensions and recuperate. I recommend that you ensure your contact with nature for at least one hour a week: take a walk in the woods, sit by a river or do some gardening. Personally, I like to watch live fire.
In addition to all of the above, your daily to-do list must first and foremost include something that gives you pleasure and brings you joy, preferably to all five sense. Try to begin each day with corporeal pleasures, make sure to devote an hour or two to things that give you joy and plan everything else after you have allocated the time to things you enjoy. Things you enjoy give you energy and improve your mood so that, given enough sleep and physical activity, you will not need any additional rest.
I see no reason to specially organize a certain period of time in order to “rest effectively”. In my view, it is much more reasonable to free your life as much as you can from things that make you tense and don’t bring you joy, filling it instead with things you enjoy and interesting work. Then you will need no rest – your favorite things to do will give you much more energy than you spend on them.